There’s a constant relationship triangle present in every youth academy: Coach, Parents and Athletes. This triangle has to work perfectly, in order to develop the player at the fullest, but sometimes that doesn’t happen.
We consistently see bad examples of what sports shouldn’t be, mainly because the behavior of parents related to their son won’t play, saying that they pay for him to play. That premise couldn’t be more wrong. In fact, what’s wrong about this triangle mainly is that parents often think they’re in charge and do whatever they want just because they pay a fee every month.
Also, there is a common misconception in youth football of ‘dealing with the parent’ rather than ‘working with the parent’ regarding influencing young players’ development. Frequently, the parent is seen as a secondary object or a distraction that may inherently negatively affect player development through their involvement. There seems to be a negative culture, at grass roots level, involving ‘pushy parents’ and their behavior; common parental behaviors that may be problematic include ‘coaching’ from the sideline, being overprotective of their child-athlete, being overcritical and becoming over-involved.
The athlete, as a protagonist in football, has to be accompanied not only by the parents, but encouraged in a positive way. Parents, more than ever, have to realize and make it clear to their learner that the competition will be present not only in football, but throughout the rest of the child’s life, taking football in a pedagogical way and teaching them lessons that will last a lifetime.
From the age of 6 years to 18 years, constant communication between coach and parent is essential to understand how general aspects can work together to improve the athlete’s performance, rather than the father protesting in the stands against a coach’s decision. your child does not play.
Specifically, between the age of 12 and 18 are the most complex for parents, players, and coaches because there are some behavioral and human changes inherent in athlete growth. These changes provide parents with challenging issues and circumstances that need to be understood in order to strengthen the parent-player-coach triangle to enable a young athlete to reach his or her potential.
Football academies, sports organizations and organizations like Scout4Winners work hard to provide high quality training for all young players and observe and highlight the best to reach the top. But clearly, they cannot do it alone. For young athletes to reach their potential, parents need to play an active role in their sporting development.